Peacemaker Guidelines

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The new guidelines for Reconciliation between YWAMers is called "Peacemaker Guidelines". The PDF can be downloaded below.

Peacemaker Guidelines

© 2009 RH&SK Barrett

Conflict
a difference in opinion or purpose that frustrates someone's goals,interests or desires.

Heart Issues

James 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?

Conflict starts with our desires. Desires can be godly or ungodly. It depends on what we do with them. Desires easily become demands making my desire more important than trusting God. This response starts us down a "slope of idolatry".

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When our hearts respond by trusting God and not ourselves, relationships can be reconciled and issues can be resolved

Managing Conflict on Multi-Cultural Teams

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Glorify God by Moving Toward Conflict

  1. Remove the log from my eye
    • Examine my heart for an action or attitude that contributed to the conflict Matthew 7:3-5
  2. Reconcile relationships
    • Repentance involves:
      • Express sorrow
      • Acknowledge hurt
      • Confess behavior
      • Promise to change
      • Ask for forgiveness
      • Speak to all involved
      • Make no excuses
    • Forgiveness means don't:
      • Continue thinking about the conflict
      • Use it against the other person
      • Gossip about it or the other person
      • Allow it to hurt the relationship
  3. Resolve differences
    • Agree to solutions based on glorifying God and looking to each other's interests Philippians 2:4 Look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others

Responses to Conflict

When we ESCAPE we...

  • DENY the conflict exists or refuse to act
  • RUN from the situation or person
  • DIE by ending a relationship

Biblical or non-Biblical?

When we ATTACK we...

  • GOSSIP or talk about the situation
  • FIGHT with words or power
  • KILL someones reputation

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Make Every Effort to Keep the Unity of the Spirit

Overlook

OVERLOOK an incident if you can answer "no" to these questions:

Proverbs 19:11 - A wise man can overlook a wrong

Colossians 3:13 - Bear with each other and forgive

Go

GO and communicate with the other person after you have prepared your heart and made sure the incident cannot be overlooked.

Matthew 5:24- Go and be reconciled with your brother

Ephesians 4:25- Go and speak truthfully to your neighbor for we are all part of the same body

Matthew 18:15 - Go and show your brother his fault

Get Help

GET HELP from a facilitator (mediator) or a wise person if you need assistance or if going by yourself didn't work

Proverbs 12:15 - A wise man listens to advice

Matthew 18:16 - Go with one or two witnesses

1 Corinthians 6:4 - A wise man in the body can decide or judge in unresolved matters

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